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Struggling With Loneliness

Posted by on Jun 24, 2019 in Tillamook County Pioneer | Comments Off on Struggling With Loneliness

Neal Lemery – community volunteer, author and blogger neallemery.com
Books: Finding My Muse on Main Street, Homegrown Tomatoes, and Mentoring Boys to Men

By Neal Lemery
I see a lot of loneliness in our society. Ironically, it is everywhere, and often found in the busiest places of our communities. With all of our personal technology, and seemingly effortless tools to “keep in touch”, we struggle with an epidemic of isolation. Loneliness is often invisible, seldom talked about, and not an easy topic of conversation. There’s a social taboo on vocalizing our emotional states, anyway, and falling silent and withdrawing is one of the traits of the lonely and isolated.
Three quarters of Americans have experienced moderate to acute loneliness. And, a quarter of us are at the high end of that emotional range.
Loneliness is most prevalent in ages under 25 and over 65. US News and World Report.

I recently came upon a friend, sitting by himself, head in his hands, in the middle of the busiest part of a big store.
Instead of tending to my shopping list and a busy day, I sat with him, and honored the silence between us. He looked up, barely acknowledging me, and then resumed staring at his hands and the floor. He’s normally talkative with me, telling stories of his kids, his work, and his art. Now, just silence, and a lot of pain. I felt his loneliness in the air we breathed, and from the bench where we sat.
My friend isn’t usually like this, brooding and silent. There’s something deep going on, I thought, and I best take the time to just be here with my friend.
The silence deepened, but it felt comfortable. I could tell that my presence was welcome, and that I should stay.
People whirled around us, the noise of shopping carts and kids, lots of conversations filling up the space. My friend’s silence became even more noteworthy in all the chaos and tumult. Intuitively, I decided to stay, my friend needing someone to just be with. Just being present is a valuable, and often greatly appreciated act of friendship.
My friend took a deep breath and sighed, and then began to talk, his voice barely above a whisper. He told a tale of anxiety and despair, how life has been a struggle, and that no one cared about him.
“I care,” I said.
“I know,” he replied. He talked more, the emotional dam letting loose, dark thoughts and pent up feelings spilling out, filling up the comfortable silence that we had. He looked me in the eye, and told a funny story on himself.
We laughed and he said he felt better, just being able to talk about life with someone.
“I’m better now,” he said. “You don’t have to worry about me now. I’ll be alright.”
“And thanks,” he said. “Thanks for sitting with me and being my friend.”
A few years ago, I took an empowering training on being sensitive to depression and suicidal ideation. QPR Training. That experience gave me the confidence to tune up my intuition and my compassion, and be able to be of some help to those in need of help in dark times. I asked a few questions, and said I knew of some resources if he needed them. He said he wasn’t at risk, but he appreciated my concern and the offer.
He thanked me for being a friend, and for taking the time to care.
Isn’t that task in the job description of being a human being and living in society? We all need to be aware and to take the time to help a fellow human being.
The rest of the day, I was more aware of the loneliness around me, and in my community. I made it a point to talk to people in the store, and say “hi”, how are you doing?”, and really meaning it.
The checkout clerk and I had a good conversation, and I realized that even though she was inundated with customers throughout her shift, the work can be lonely and isolating.
“There’s a misperception that loneliness means social isolation,” Dr. Dilip Jeste, a professor of psychiatry and neuroscience at the University of California at San Diego, said. “Loneliness is subjective. It is what you feel. The definition of loneliness is distress because of a discrepancy between actual social relationships and desired social relationships. There’s a discrepancy between what I want and what I have.”
Like most of us, I experience loneliness and depression. Those emotions are part of my humanity, and likely are at least partly influenced by the turmoil and pressures of our society, which corrode my efforts to take care of myself and be healthy. I’ve tried to build into my self-care regimen some tools to be less lonely, more connected with others. Among those tools are exercise, nutrition, taking time to be in nature, creativity, and engaging with others.
Volunteerism is suggested by Dr. Kasley Killam, in her article, A Solution for Loneliness, in the May, 2019 edition of Psychology Today. She urges us to volunteer at least two hours a week, which can reduce our sense of loss of meaning, and reverse cognitive decline. 2/3 of volunteers reported they now felt less isolated, which addresses the fact that a fourth to half of all Americans feel lonely a lot of the time. Loneliness makes many of us more prone to developing a wide range of physical and mental illnesses, including heart disease, cancer, diabetes and depression.
Self care, and community care. They go hand in hand and make a better world for all of us.


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Explore Oyster Beds and Ancient Plants with the Friends of Netarts Bay WEBS

Posted by on Jun 24, 2019 in Tillamook County Pioneer | Comments Off on Explore Oyster Beds and Ancient Plants with the Friends of Netarts Bay WEBS

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What do oysters have to do with healthy ecosystems?
According to Chrissy Smith with the Friends of Netarts Bay WEBS, the oyster industry is an important part of the North Oregon Coast economy but these shellfish also improve the environment around them.
“Oysters depend on clean water and healthy ecosystems,” she said. “A single oyster can filter 50 gallons of water in a day.”
And, Smith added that “oysters taste better when you understand how they grow and realize the impact they have on their environment.”
That’s why the Friends of Netarts Bay WEBS is hosting another popular ‘Art of Growing Oysters Tour’ on June 26 to help connect people to our coastal oysters and give them an opportunity to learn about the industry and its impact on clean water and environments. This free tour includes a stop at Whiskey Creek Shellfish Hatchery and ends at JAndy Oyster Company’s processing facility.

“The tour is a rare opportunity to learn about these facilities, the state of the art scientific research going on at the hatchery, and the issues faced by the shellfish industries and wild shellfish along the Pacific Northwest,” Smith said. “People love oysters and one thing folks walk away knowing is how they impact our bays and food. It’s an important connection to make.”
Registration is required and the tour is limited to the first 18 people.
Then, on June 28th WEBS is offering another free event – this time exploring ancient coastal plants in the Netarts area.
“This is a brand new event we’re offering this year and we are really excited about it!,” Smith said. “We’re going to be making a few stops along the Bay talking about how the plant kingdom evolved from protista algaes migrating from the oceans, into fresh water and then up onto land in the form of mosses and liverworts and we will discuss the evolution of our forest overtime.”
Participants will explore both the bay side and an older growth forest along Netarts and Cape Lookout. This event will include a brief presentation before participants head out for a tour around the bay that includes a few shorts walks and a longer two-mile hike through Cape Lookout State Park.
“This hike is being led by an educator and trained biologist with a background in plant ecology,” Smith said. “He is going to let the plants tell the story and although the route may change, he is planning a short walk near the Whiskey Creek Fish Hatchery and approximately a 2-mile round trip hike along Cape Lookout headland.”
Both the Art of Growing Oysters and Ancient Coastal Plants are part of the Explore Nature series of hikes, walks, paddles and outdoor adventures. Explore Nature programs are hosted by a consortium of volunteer community and non-profit organizations, these meaningful nature-based experiences highlight the unique beauty of Tillamook County and the work being done to preserve the area’s natural resources and natural resource-based economy.
To register, or find another adventure near you, visit explorenaturetillamookcoast.com. And be sure to follow both Explore Nature Tillamook Coast and Friends of Netarts Bay WEBS on Facebook and Instagram to keep up with all their county-wide events.


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Werner’s Beef & Brew Celebrates Official Flag Dedication Saturday June 22nd

Posted by on Jun 24, 2019 in Tillamook County Pioneer | Comments Off on Werner’s Beef & Brew Celebrates Official Flag Dedication Saturday June 22nd

Saturday June 22nd was a busy day in Tillamook. Following the Dairy Parade, the US Army Band marched to Werner’s Beef & Brew for the official flag dedication ceremony. In 2016, Werner’s hoisted the 135’ tall American flag over their production facility in the heart of Tillamook. It has since become a landmark for both residents and visitors alike. The band played, and the ceremony included guest speakers from VFW Post 2848 and songs from an artist with local ties, Connor Ackley. Keeping with their commitment to honor those who serve our country, Werner Beef & Brew provided all veterans a free meal between 12:00pm and 4:00pm on June 22nd, and 20% of all sales at Werner Beef & Brew will be donated to Kilchis-Tillamook Bay VFW Post 2848.
Photos by Don Best

Panorama of crowd at Werner Beef & Brew flag dedication June 22nd. Photo by Don Best

Click here for video of the US Army Band performing the Star Spangled Banner at the Werner Flag dedication on June 22nd. Video by Don Best

Werner Beef & Brew Flag Dedication June 22nd. Photo by Don Best


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Dairy Parade 2019 – Photos by Don Best

Posted by on Jun 23, 2019 in Tillamook County Pioneer | Comments Off on Dairy Parade 2019 – Photos by Don Best

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Many views of the 2019 Tillamook Dairy Parade – from horses, dance groups, music, floats and more – it was “Udderly A-Moo-sing” for everyone.
An especially appreciated and surprise appearance by Senator Betsy Johnson was just one of the highlights.
Here are photos of the parade and parade-goers as Pioneer photographer “jumped on a float” – riding along the route in the Warehouse 10 “float.” Said Don, “I was shooting photos of people as they were shooting photos of me!”
Be sure to look at the crowd photos, share and tag yourself, friends and family and the Tillamook County Pioneer.
Photos by Don Best

 

Click here to view video of the dancers …

 

 

Click here for a video of the Queens drill team.

 

 

 


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Like a Phoenix from the Ashes, the “Cowbell” to Re-open Soon in Rockaway Beach

Posted by on Jun 22, 2019 in Tillamook County Pioneer | Comments Off on Like a Phoenix from the Ashes, the “Cowbell” to Re-open Soon in Rockaway Beach

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By Brian Halvorsen
Do you believe in second chances? Jeremy Horton does, as he gears up to re-open the Cowbell Homestyle Café within the next week. The restaurant had been a staple of the Rockaway Beach community for 23 years before its abrupt closure last year.
The former owner Patrick Creech and his sister Cleta opened the Cowbell(e) Cafe in 1996 as a place that catered to local clientele. Now Horton, who purchased the business from Creech this year, wants to keep that mission going.

In 2018, the Cowbell was forced to close when the Internal Revenue Service placed liens on Creech’s property due to his unpaid personal tax liability. According to Horton, Creech tried to work out payments to keep his business, but the IRS told him he was too late.
The Cowbell sold at auction, but Creech assigned retention rights to Horton, which allowed him to redeem it within six months at a 20% price increase.
After an initial investor fell through, Horton was able to secure a loan and purchased the business. Horton says part of the money was secured through an angel investor who would like to remain anonymous. Even with the money, Horton needed the help of the Tillamook based law firm, Albright Kittell PC.
“Without the knowledge of Mr. [Michael] Kittell, we would have lost it for sure,” Horton said.
On the last day of the six month period Horton had to assert his retention rights, the payment was made to the IRS and the business was secured. The wire transfer from the loan company came in 15 seconds before the close of their business. The payment to the IRS was made with just minutes to spare in their workday.
Work on the building — which was necessary due to the time it had sat empty and damage done between the transfer of the property to Horton — began almost immediately.
Horton is no stranger to the restaurant industry. He previously owned an establishment in Ormond Beach, Florida and managed two large restaurants in Daytona Beach.
In 2015, Horton moved to Rockaway Beach to manager the Sea Treasures Inn after visiting the town the year prior. He looked around and noticed that most of the businesses focused solely on tourists. He visited the Cowbell where he was surprised to see how Patrick Creech was doing something different.


“Pat has always been a pillar of the community,” Horton said, “On any given day you could go in and find Pat whistling and happily talking to guests and being his cheerful self no matter what was happening.”
Horton says he has not been intimidated by the process. In fact, it lit a fire underneath him.
“The Cowbell and the fight to bring it back has breathed life back into me and gave me a real purpose,” according to Horton, “The residents of Rockaway have been absolutely amazing and helpful as well. I wouldn’t even be able to name them all but they know who they are.”

There will be familiar faces among the Cowbell crew when the restaurant reopens, likely within the next week. Watch for details. Photo by Brian Halvorsen

While the decor and the name might change slightly (tweaked from the Cow Belle Cafe to simply the Cowbell), not much about the business’ personality will change. It still intends to target locals, offering them a home away from home for breakfast or lunch, hours will be 8 am to 2 pm. Even Creech is returning — this time as an employee.
More information about the Cowbell, including the opening date (soon!) when its announced, can be found on their website at www.cowbellrockaway.com and their Facebook page. The Cowbell is located at 194 Highway 101 S, Rockaway Beach.


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